It’s hard enough to walk away when it’s familiar
I saw the cost in your eyes of all my failures
We found a bond in the beauty of a flame
Stood in together but it didn’t burn the same
Parasocial love is the bargain-bin séance of modern fame: strangers staring into the glass, inventing a person from fragments, then getting offended when the real one has bones, bills, bad moods, and a private life. They think they know your motives, your secrets, your breakfast, the shape of your loneliness. They imagine being you, being near you, being chosen by you, until the fantasy becomes a little apartment with no doors. The cruel joke is that all this imagined closeness creates distance. Everyone feels intimate, nobody is touched, and the room gets colder.
Stare Away’s video for Familiar takes this heartache into poignant territory: telling the story of how the camera can be a trap, a lover, a heckler, and possibly a union grievance filed by your own nervous system. Directed by Brooklyn’s Gabriel Stanley, the clip takes Ben Nelson’s bright, synth-heavy ache and throws it into a room full of hands, bodies, stares, and theatrical trouble.
Nelson, the New York City artist behind Stare Away, sings straight into the lens with the dazed concentration of a man trying to finish a thought while being spiritually repossessed. Around him, disembodied arms drag, clutch, adore, and interfere, the kind of devotion that looks flattering until it starts feeling like a very bad meet-and-greet. The video’s central gag, if you can call emotional suffocation a gag, is that the artist becomes the audience’s object, pulled through the machinery of attention while still expected to look good under practical lighting. Show business remains undefeated, and possibly sticky.
The song itself, from the upcoming album In Absence, due July 31 via A La Carte Records, carries a dark elegance: the synths shine hard, the bass drives with purpose, and Nelson’s thundering voice tugs our heartstrings. There is a heartfelt power in the vocal and melody that recalls the Scottish band Lowlife, that same wide-open ache where post-punk grandeur meets bruised romantic confession. Familiar is about the last words that never quite arrive, and the private aftermath of a bond that once felt sacred but could no longer hold its heat.
The lyrics circle the difficulty of leaving something known, even after love has become damaged by failure, silence, and uneven devotion. Images of an open-window song, a needle spinning beside an empty room, and a sanctuary turned into a house of sighs give the track its wounded center: the question of whether someone will keep dancing alone, or find another body to share the memory with.
“I felt something very heavy when recording the opening riff, it had a much larger story to tell,” says Ben Nelson. “The moment I knew where the bass guitar was going to drive and where the melodies would rest, it brought a balance I needed at the time.”
In the video, the forced perspective gives it a funhouse intimacy, making the viewer complicit in all the grabbing and gawking that ensues. Performers keep hauling their deepest wounds onto stages and screens, which can be cathartic in the way surgery is cathartic: messy, necessary, and best handled with decent lighting. People connect to it, truly – but parasocial devotion takes that gift and stuffs it into a souvenir cup. The artist bleeds; the crowd applauds, projects, assumes, diagnoses, and sends heart emojis like tiny invoices. Everyone claims intimacy, while genuine reciprocation stays scarce. The performer gives a diary entry, a nerve ending. Mostly, though, they receive mirrors held by strangers who love their own reflections.
“One of the great things about Ben’s music and Familiar, in particular, is the driving nature of the arrangements,” says director Gabriel Stanley. “I wanted to explore a forced perspective and thought it would be really interesting to flip the idea of parasocial relationships on its head, giving the viewer a look from the eyes of the artist instead of how it’s normally portrayed…Real fans, practical lighting, and old school camera moves with modern lenses felt like a great way to set the tone for anyone hearing the song for the first time while watching this video.”
By the time Nelson reaches the stage, Familiar has turned heartbreak into a public event, which is probably why pop music exists and why therapists keep calendars.
Watch the video below:
Stare Away’s new album In Absence is out on July 31, 2026, via A La Carte Records. Listen to the previous single Parting Ways below, and order the album here.
Stare Away will be taking the show on the road this summer with Casket Cassette. Tickets on sale here.
July 25 — Phoenix, AZ — Valley Bar
July 26 — Houston, TX — White Oak Music Hall
July 29 — San Antonio, TX — Paper Tiger
July 30 — McAllen, TX — The Gremlin
July 31 — Dallas, TX — TX Tea Room
August 1 — Atlanta, GA — The Earl
August 3 — Washington, DC — Pie Shop
August 5 — Philadelphia, PA — PhilaMOCA
August 6 — New York, NY — Nightclub 101
August 7 — Chicago, IL — Downstairs @ Subterranean
August 12 — Minneapolis, MN — 7th St. Entry
August 13 — Denver, CO — Skylark
August 15 — Salt Lake City, UT — Kilby Court
August 16 — Seattle, WA — Black Lodge
August 18 — Portland, OR — Holocene
August 19 — San Francisco, CA — Killowatt
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