QRIMOLE – Christmas 2025

One thing that the staff at Tag PR noted when they got to work on smearing Blake Lively was just how little effort it actually took on their part to change popular opinion. All they really had to do was plant the seeds on social media, and then public opinion just ran with what they did and their chosen narrative gained an entire life of its own. It’s the same with NewJeans. It’s not like literally everyone is being paid by Tag PR, far from it. Their amount of manipulation is actually very small. If there’s one thing we know about k-pop fans it’s how they love to grab an “appealing” narrative and run with it, so k-pop fans are particularly vulnerable to this type of manipulation. I bet Tag PR had to do hardly anything at all.

your thoughts on these thoughts?

Hi. I didn’t see this term mentioned in the thread, so I wanted to share this all with you. It’s about Izzat. Some posts have mentioned “saving face,” which is Izzat, but I wanted to elaborate on it.

Izzat has no direct translation into English. We only have terms that can broach the same concept such as “honour,” “reputation,” or “face.” But Izzat is so much more than that. It’s a zero-sum game of collective honour shared by whole groups of people, all of whom take it very seriously. A system like this isn’t just foreign to Enlightenment values, but I’d argue it’s antithetical to every sensible form of governance on the planet. It will destroy any system that assumes good faith.

Yeah, that’s enough (I edited out the rest, it was huge and all pretty much reiterating again and again on the second paragraph). Seems like a deliberately hard-line interpretation just to paint all Indian people with the one brush. It reads like racist bullshit that I’d read on a neo-Nazi forum or something.

Australia is very multicultural and I live in a very multicultural part of the country. I’ve met and worked with many Indian people over the years. Some were dicks but most of them were cool and super nice actually. Just like anyone else from any other place. Lara is best girl in Katseye.

When I was at Metallica the other week the stadium security was actively throwing out people who tried to start moshes. How do you do feel about this? Do you prefer safety, or do you think moshes are key cultural element of a metal gig?

Violent dancing has always gone hand in hand with violent-sounding music. Before moshing at metal gigs we had punks doing the “pogo”, this shit has been around for ages. But it’s often not as violent as it looks – if you’re in the pit and you go down to the ground, people notice and pick you up, even if you’re a stranger. Security often doesn’t understand though, and also sometimes they are concerned about public liability etc so it’s a lot simpler from their point of view sometimes to clamp down on all of it, especially at a larger show they might be worried about things getting out of hand, like crowd crushes etc although that’s in reality got more to do with venues overfilling their capacity and having poor design and safety practices than the actual moshing.

I actually blame Nirvana’s “Smells Like Teen Spirit” video (which had a bunch of people ironically moshing very violently) for making moshing less safe, that was the first exposure the mainstream had to that type of dancing and ever since that came out, people who’s only knowledge of moshing was that video would go to the front of gigs and try to start fights. But metal gigs are much more polite than this, and deliberately trying to hurt people is generally looked down upon.

Having said that, I really don’t like being in the midst of that shit, when I go to a show I really just want to see the band. So when moshing is banned it doesn’t upset me too much.

“Back in the days before Gfriend changed the molecular structure of the universe, there was Apink and this early song of theirs is quite typical of their early sound and it’s not bad. ”

To this day IDK why Anti-Kpop Fangirl called her “Fat Chorong”. Do you have any insight into that?

Nope, none at all!

I’ve noticed a lot of known act shows that I’ve been to, the musician will have the roadie bring out a new guitar for each song. Is it a case of the guitar being tuned specifically for that song?

When I was at Metallica the other week I noticed that James Hetfield used the same guitar for 4 or 5 songs. Is it a case of heavy metal being able to get away with the same instrument cuz the music remains pretty consistent? Is it a case of not being as important because James is not the main guitarist?

Sometimes it’ll be that the guitars all have different tunings (when I went and saw Sonic Youth it was a good example of this). Sometimes it’s more about getting the sound right, switching from 6 to 7 string guitars, or from a guitar with single-coils to one with humbuckers, or electric to acoustic etc. Sometimes it’s about showing off the guitar collection or just having fun with different looks, as a guitar is a fashion item too! With very big touring artists it’s possible also a way of keeping the strings relatively fresh on each guitar by not playing any one guitar too much. Another thing is that if a performer is performing in very poor conditions for tuning stability (high humidity etc) they might have two guitars (or more) and while the guitarist is playing guitar A, guitar B is getting tuned, and vice versa. However under normal conditions guitars don’t need tuning all that much, especially in the case of someone like James Hetfield who doesn’t do flashy shit or have a guitar with a floating bridge.

Does she cook?

I don’t really like Mexican food that much, but my girlfriend does, that’s her favourite takeaway. She can cook at our place.

now i’m hearing that Don Henley mimes during concerts. have you heard about this? fuck The Eagles.

I recently saw Tom Jones and Cliff Richards in concert and they’re in their mid 80s but still put on awesome shows where they actually performed. what’s this motherfucker’s excuse?

Bad enough I can never find a decent copy of the Boys of Summer MV to watch on Youtube, but at least Youtube is free. This mofo is charging a zillion dollars per ticket during a Las Vegas performer residency.

P.S.
fuck, marry, kill: Princess Peach from Super Mario Bros, April O’Neil from Ninja Turtles, Apoki?

Marry Apoki because she’s probably got connections in the world of the k-pops, might be good for the website. Fuck Princess Peach right in the peach. I don’t care about TMNT so April won’t be missed.

Don Henley is an ass. Completely unsurprising that he mimes to a pitch-corrected pre-record. This is getting more common for legacy groups who can’t sing their own parts as good as they used to.

I’m not sure if there’s really something there or if I’m just being a creep or something, but have you noticed any pedo-dogwhistle-y type things going on with SM’s new girl group Hearts2hearts? I really like their music, but something is just rubbing me the wrong way. I saw this tiktok a fan made about how their signature move that’s in every comeback is the “geol geol” which is an Indonesian word that means “hip movement” but could also be loosely translated as twerking… And the movement they really do is something in between the two (keep in mind it’s a gg of eight and only two of them are adults), it’s not expressly lewd but when the group has very little else in terms of concept/identity it becomes weirder to me. add in that in their most recent title track they had their 14 year old maknae singing “your reaction, my pleasure” idk am I being the gross one for reading into things?

No you’re not imagining it. Hearts2Hearts and NewJeans are working the same territory. These companies know exactly what they’re doing and the video does a good job of pointing this out. No feedback for the video maker other than “good job”.

lol, sounds about right with the state of western world schools handling bullying.

the teachers at your school had just given up?

I guess. The problem with bullying is that the only thing that actually works in response is violence, but a school is never going to endorse that.

your thoughts on this game? it looks like a mix of Minecraft and Elder Scrolls. There is definitely a creative/building aspect to the game, it’s just not shown in this footage, I don’t think.

apparently the OG founders sold the game and studio to Riot Games in 2020 (i.e. amid the lockdown boom. when gaming and TV/movie streaming companies stupidly thought that high profits from everybody being stuck indoors would be the new on-going stasis quo and went on a content producing sprees with huge hiring/purchasing drives); the game was cancelled in 2025 and the studio; the OG founders bought back the game from Riot and hired back ppl to develop it.

It’s this blog which has sold me on it:- the dedication to modding, including dedicated server hosting. IDK if you’ve follow at all Minecraft news, but as MS keep further sticking their tendrils into it as the years go by, but they keep fucking with player server communities and modding efforts surrounding them with changing Terms and Conditions. Having an alternative which ppl can migrate to if fucks with them is a great thing

Looks very unappealing. The one thing that I didn’t like about Minecraft was when they started adding elements that were more like an RPG (like weapon stats and potion brewing), so something that’s like Minecraft but even further in the RPG direction than Minecraft already is, is of zero interest to me. I always thought the sandbox building and creativity was the big draw of Minecraft and attempts to make it look and play more like any generic RPG you can play anywhere seem wildly off-base.

I know about your feelings about vocal training. Kpop artists really don’t sing enough to warrant it compared to their limited time for other kinds of training (a lot of them really could benefit from more context-specific PR training). That said, how true is the argument that the training protects the voices of those who do sing a lot?

Definitely valid. There are plenty of actual sensible uses for vocal training, it’s just that k-pop generally doesn’t require it. There are exceptions, I mean if you’re going to try and sing something like “Golden” you’re going to need some training. But most k-pop songs are not like that.

This performance is pitch-corrected, by the way. Just putting that out there.

your thoughts?

@8:34 he says that viewers shouldn’t post pessimistic comments saying that writing to politicians doesn’t work he then proceeds to give an example of EU’s Chat Control legislation at least being delayed cuz of feedback that they received.

It’s no secret that activism works. That’s why there’s so many people online insisting that it doesn’t, that protesters are wasting time or are somehow evil for protesting, etc etc. People in power desperately want you to not realise just how powerful activism can be.

convincing arguments or no?

On the Gleason-style “flat Earth map” (the one with the North Pole in the center and Antarctica as an ice wall around the edge), the continent labeled “Australia” is drawn ridiculously oversized compared to the real-world landmass, and its position doesn’t line up perfectly with measured flight routes and shipping lanes.

Flat Earthers who noticed this decided the simplest explanation was that the entire continent is a hoax. Literally doesn’t exist.

Instead, what globies think is Australia is supposedly just a bunch of giant military bases, mining operations, and fake towns scattered across parts of South America, southern Africa, and remote Pacific islands.

The Sydney Opera House is a scale model in a hangar in New Zealand (same set used for Lord of the Rings).

What Google Earth shows as Australia is recycled footage of Patagonia, Namibia, and parts of Indonesia stitched together.

All the “Australians” you’ve ever met online or in real life are allegedly paid actors or people who have been brainwashed into thinking they live there.

Every Australian accent you’ve heard is performed by a small pool of crisis actors (supposedly fewer than 200 people) who rotate passports and online personas.

Sydney, Melbourne, Perth, etc., are claimed to be sound-stage cities or heavily restricted zones that normal people can’t actually visit without signing NDAs. Any photos or videos are CGI or filmed on sets in New Zealand or California.

The population numbers are faked to inflate UN voting blocs, launder money, and hide the fact that the world is much less populated than we’re told.

Bonus points in the theory: the name “Australia” comes from Latin “australis” meaning “southern,” which they say is a deliberate clue that it’s the “southern lie” or “fake south land.”

The real southern landmass is only Antarctica (the ice wall). Everything south of the equator on the globe model is distorted to hide the flat plane’s true size.

Plane flights “to” Australia actually land in secret bases in Chile or South Africa, then passengers are drugged/driven to enclosed studio cities built in the desert.

Kangaroos are real animals, but they’re only native to hidden enclosures in Texas for breeding photo ops.

Cricket and Australian rules football are filmed in indoor domes with forced perspective tricks.

The 26 million “citizens” are just database entries to justify money printing and UN votes.
Vegemite jars are made in Canada and shipped worldwide with fake postmarks.

Conspiracy theories used to be all fun and games, then COVID happened and millions of people around the world died because they couldn’t stop believing in bullshit from conspiacy theorist peddlers. Nobody wants to hear it, but sometimes the boring-ass powers that be actually do know what’s best.

Having said that, like many people my age, I grew up terrified that a nuclear war would happen at any second. So the lame “Australia isn’t real” narrative is actually a really good thing to get people in other countries believing because it means that we cease to be a military target for anybody. I wish we had this narrative back when I was a kid, I would have spread it everywhere.

Oppar, is “pattern recognition” racist?

Do you think being racist is just the natural state of humans since we excel so much at recognizing/predicting patterns?

I have absolutely none the fuck idea what you’re referring to with “pattern recognition” in this context. But I’ll do my best on the second point.

I actually think a certain amount of racism is ingrained in the human psyche as a survival instinct from tribal days. If you were in Tribe A and you saw Tribe B coming over the hill, they may have good intentions or they may not, but it paid in those circumstances to be wary. It’s the tribal chimpanzee part of the brain talking. When you talk to a racist and get down to the brass tacks of why they hate a certain group of people it generally comes down to perceived cultural factors and skin colour often has zero to do with it. So race is for these people really just a signifier of culture: “they look different, so that means they might act different or think different”. Even though often they have a lot more in common with the other person than they realise. I hope I don’t have to write a whole thing here about why racism isn’t actually a good thing, I’d like to think my readers are more intelligent than that. The fact that Kpopalypse.com is read by people from all around the world of many different races and cultures, and equally hated by all of them, should tell you all that you have a lot more in common than you think.

Never seen this particular drama star in any movies.

A lot of the reasons why AV acting has a high suicide rate is due to the stigma around AV acting. People who enter that industry often have a heavy battle on their hands with acceptance from their parents and friends, with society’s perception of them, and so on, it can be isolating. Whereas if the choice of starting a JAV career was just accepted as much as any other career choice was accepted, then they wouldn’t have to face all that stigma and the resulting alienation that often leads them down a dark path. The JAV scene has made some improvements over the years in how it treats performers and the sort of help they can access (Kaho Shibuya’s book documents this quite well, showing the recent positives without sugarcoating it and while also showing where the industry still has more work to do) but at the end of the day it’s the larger issue of society’s perception and reaction that causes the biggest problems, not anything within the industry itself.

You’re into rock but never got tattoos, why not? I assume it was CBF and/or too poor?

1. CBF
2. Am poor
3. I don’t like pain
4. I’ve never seen a design so amazing that I’ve thought that I’d want it on my body for the rest of my life and wouldn’t get sick of it in 10 years or so

why do you think this is?

People are poor, modern gaming is out of their price range. Nothing wrong with the old games anyway. Gaming’s fascination with constantly wanting to have faster hardware and newer bigger games is baffling to me. All that power-sucking energy-bill-increasing hardware and for what, to play new games ruined by microtransactions that are a shadow of what the old games were. We reached the point a decade ago where we didn’t need further advances in graphics as we should have stopped there. When I hear about the price of RAM or whatever going up I jump for joy – maybe, just maybe, gamers will finally get a fucking clue and go without their stupid upgrades.

Which member of NewJeans was in Antarctica, and why, and how does one even get to Antarctica?

The member was Hanni.

When I was looking for jobs recently, one that I looked at was a research station job in Antarctica, it pay pretty well to go down there. Maybe she was raising some money for those court cases. I’ve heard there are ways you can go as a tourist as well but I don’t know anything about it.

This is a remix of the original Lorde’s song and people on the internet call this song’s genre “future bass”, whatever it means. It’s probably some bullshit name but what this song’s defining characteristic are? And can you recall some similar songs in kpop?

The defining characteristic is that it’s boring.

This sort of nowhere-sound creeps its way into k-pop sometimes, usually as a dance break or whatever. I know there’s some Loona stuff that uses this (not their better stuff).

Back in the day, Gfriend got some controversy for their songs sounding like those of others. True plagiarism is absolutely not true, and I also think we really could benefit from more groups taking inspiration from successes, but I still wanted to ask which song you prefer between Compas and Airplane and why?

Airplane is better. Not sure how you’re drawing a parallel between these two songs, they sound nothing like each other (beyond them both being girl group pop songs).

@3:08 there’s some unintentional humour in this, surely?

they have this epic rock opera performance and then some nerdy looking dudes rise up onto the stage.

this is like something out of a comedy manga. there’s this character trope in manga/anime called the chunnibyou, which translates into “8th grade syndrome”. it’s usually a comedic relief character who’s an adult child in a mundane real world setting, who LARPs as a character from a pulpy fantasy or sci-fi story.

Not at all. Esport is taken very seriously. I get what you mean though, I certainly find this hilarious, and probably so would anyone else who is more used to the stereotypical sport-person appearance… but I don’t think that humour translates over to Asia at all.

why is funk music typically associated with porn?

Both were big in the 1970s, and a lot of the early porn films had funk music. The association has stuck ever since, even though it’s actually extremely rare to find a new porn film these days with funk music in it.

Your thoughts on his thoughts?

The hypocrites that he describes is the typical woke virtue signaller on social media, for sure! They’re usually the nastiest, biggest POS people you’ll ever meet. These are the ppl who will gleefully dance on people’s graves on social media.

A lot of people who get into politics do it as a form of moral compensation. People who hold very extreme political views about caring for the disavantaged sometimes don’t do a very good job of caring for those around them. Likewise, a lot of people who embrace the church often do so not because they’ve been good, but because they’ve been extremely bad and are looking for redemption.It’s the same type of thing. But the person who says they hate everyone but actually doesn’t is a hypocrite too. I think it’s better to just be consistent.

@16:07 is it common to have music library licensing trolls to come after people like how this composer describes here? has anything similar happened during your career?

@19:18 your thoughts on his advice to other composers to try to avoid using libraries, to avoid possible ownership questions down the line?

Has never happened to me as I don’t use libraries. It’s generally a bad idea just because of the popularity of certain ones means that if you use it your music will be marked as coming from that time period, it’s the same reason why you should avoid musical trends in general.

helpful article for you? (you x out the sign in nag pop up, don’t worry)
P.S. WTF? must’ve been Germans buying!
“We are now in an age of big, out-of-nowhere hits … Supermarket Simulator, from a tiny team, which has made over $34 million “

Not really, no. Oi and don’t stereotype my brethern, I’ll get Liz onto you…

Your thoughts?

gawd, this is how they should’ve handled it the first time around when they tried the Steam Machine concept ~10 years ago! Like the Steam Deck, they’re now providing a fixed hardware specification for developers to optimise for.

I don’t use consoles and won’t be using whatever this is either so I don’t care. I’m sure someone gives a shit and that’s nice but I don’t. Not sure how many times I gotta tell you guys I don’t care about console gaming lol

(@23:38) your take on his opinion of the game? (i wasn’t aware that Crysis was considered a “Halo killer”. Were you? )

I played it a little but got bored of it about an hour in and haven’t played since. Yes I was aware that Crysis was called a “Halo Killer” back in the day but so was any FPS back then with even the mildest of sci-fi elements. A bit like how in 2012 every girl group with any degree of fleeting success got called “The #2 group to SNSD”, every game studio wanted to board the Halo hype train.

what does this person mean by “goon to parasocial relationships”?

I would have thought that was pretty self-explanatory. Although I dislike the word “goon” in this context, I’d probably use “get off” instead. All gooning is fapping, but not all fapping is gooning. Hopefully that makes sense but I don’t blame you if it doesn’t.

now in so many days there seems to be two cancellation attempts of artists from indonesia, a predominantly muslim country, for not wanting to draw art of characters in same sex relationships. do you think this is purely coincidence?

i wouldn’t put it past activist trolls purposely trying to get small businesses cancelled to getting their jollies off. they seem to target people less likely to want to fight back:
-like the christian baker in Colorado who refused to bake the cake
-transwoman tiktokers in restaurants who seem to target immigrant serving staff, waiting to catch on video misgendering.
-transwoman activists again who go into beauty shops to get genitals waxed.

i totally wouldn’t surprised if a contigent has now set up a campaign to specifically go after these artists in developing nation countries, many of which are young women.

Well, an artist can refuse an art commission for any reason at all. They can refuse it because they’re too busy, because it’s not the right moon phase for them to collect their art mana from the moon goddess, or just because they don’t fucking feel like it. You don’t have to accept every job. Although personally if I was an artist of any worth in a poor conservative country who believed in some religious bullcrap I’d try to loosen the carrot in my ass a little for the westobucks. There’s good money in catering to rich people who want to fap. But that’s just me. I don’t have a problem with the artist refusing the job because of their religious beliefs. I also don’t have a problem with the customer sharing that refusal with the world, after all other potential customers have a right to know. My only issue is with all the people jumping in after the fact, picking a side and then harassing the other side. If you don’t want to make gay art for whatever reason, don’t make it. If you don’t want to use the services of people who don’t want to make gay art for whatever reason, then don’t. Simple as that.

your thoughts on these arguments?

I think it’s well known that Steam does well because it’s a good service. Nothing all that interesting here for me to comment on.

Do cats get a pass on correct microphone usage

Noooooo, kitty is doing it all wrong. See that surface with the little circle in the middle of it? That’s the part you actually sing into. The cat is singing into the top-rear of the microphone, not the front, which is closer to facing us. Unsure how many times I gotta write about this, baffled that people still get it wrong.

I know Yeonjun – Talk to You will be covered in the weekly roundup, but I was wondering about your thoughts on the “live” kit sound on this track and my theories on how it was mixed.
At first I thought it was just a sampled live kit sound as per usual in k-pop, but I saw his IG story where there’s a video of an acoustic kit being tracked for this song, which got me wondering how they might’ve used the recording. The the drums in the final mix sound underwhelming and neutered, it sounds like they sampled and programmed what they tracked. Especially in the kick (definitely in the 4 beat count in at the start), somewhat in the snare too, though there’s more organic variance in the open hi-hat and cymbals, and they kept the ringing in the snare audible at the very start, which leaves lingerings of what the original raw energy of the tracked kit might’ve sounded like.
If they ended up using the kit they tracked at all could it be that they just sterilized it with compression and killed the room sound (not surprising for a commercial track in k-pop)? I think it could be a combination of these things but wanted to get your two cents. Tbh I think the punk rock vibe would have benefitted from a shitty reverberant live kit sound (more so in the chorus). Anyways, I enjoy the memes and your thoughts on the mix/production for the roundups, they keep me reading, so cheers!

They have compressed and gated the fuck out of that kit. Part of the reason why producers do this is because a very “live”, ringy drumkit eats up a lot of freqnecy space and time space which swallows up the vocals a little. Pop producers always want the vocals to stand out so that’s what they prioritise.

Oppa! I sent you a question a couple months ago about being in a relationship with a man that was somewhat controlling and had endless requirements and standards on how I act, walk, talk, dress, etc. Your advice was essentially to, and I quote, “get the fuck out of there” before I end up “pregnant with his kids and trapped living my entire life for someone else.” I won’t bore you with the details once again, but I thought I’d give you an update! So, I mulled on it for quite a while because I realize it’s always easier for people online, who don’t have the full cultural and interpersonal context to say things like “just break up!” And I totally get it- if I were on the outside looking in, I’d probably say the same thing. Stuff like this is just always easier said than done. I did consider it a lot, but I also tried the second, more difficult option you gave me which was to just keep fighting and trying to grab whatever semblance of freedom I could have back while keeping the peace with all the mental and verbal gymnastics that involved. This is also what my closest friends advised me to do since they personally met the guy and felt he was otherwise a really great match for me. So a lot of back and forth happened, a lot of long talks and arguments, and after lots of work, we managed to reach a somewhat, shaky middle ground, which was great!

For all of 5 seconds, that is.

Because after all that perpetual emotional labor, he went ahead and dropped a bomb on me, as one does. Apparently, he had applied for a certain, mysterious job 9 months prior (which he never told me about). Three months after applying, he got accepted! Huzzah! However, they told him he wouldn’t be starting right away, and would have to wait six months. Which brings us to October 2025, when he did get his assignment, after which we had this conversation. At this point, I was like “Okay, out with it man, what’s the damn job?” Yeah, it was Cabin Crew on a major 4-star airline. And he was telling me this like two weeks before he was off to travel and start his training.

You can imagine I was pissed – because first of all, not telling your partner for 9 whole months? Getting accepted into a job that would mean copious amounts of long-distance, which I was NOT down for? Also putting me through all that emotional distress, making me give up on small joys I had in life because HE didn’t like it, all while proceeding to get a job that would have him doing precisely all the stuff he would never be okay with me doing? I was livid. It wasn’t the job I was mad about- it was the fact that he didn’t tell me. Had he told me, I would have acted differently, made different decisions, not given up so much of myself knowing this person was barely gonna be around for me anyway and will be busy living it up in the air and having all the experiences we planned to have together, on his own. His justification for not saying anything? Trying to “protect” me, to not keep me “stressed” and “waiting” along with him. Well, that’s absolute bullshit because he had absolutely no problem stressing me out otherwise, and was only being selfish, hypocritical and manipulative.

But you know what? After being so conflicted for so long, it honestly felt like divine intervention in a way – I wasn’t able to end it by myself, but this was my 13th reason. So the good news is, I finally managed to walk away from this relationship and realised oppar was right all along!

Bad news is, damage was definitely done, and I now find myself struggling to find myself again. Nothing changes the fact that I have isolated myself so much, I find it hard to go back to just being social, and still have tendencies to avoid my friends as long as possible without them flipping out. I also find myself very pessimistic and skeptical of the idea of relationships and marriage in general, because all the real life examples are just horrifying to me, and it appears the only way to be in a marriage is to erase yourself and kinda just be a placeholder and a caretaker (as a woman, that is. men have to give up certain things too, but probably not to the same scale). Hell, they even made a new silent hill game about it (Silent Hill f), where the girl getting married literally cut off her own arm to give her “hand” in marriage, was branded with her husband’s family crest like a possession, and literally had her face peeled off – aka a loss of self-identity. I know they’re just gruesome metaphors, but it feels somewhat true especially now that I’ve experienced some of it firsthand.

I mean, I know oppa is not married, but if you don’t get married around here and just decide to adopt cats, you get shat on by society as a whole because you’re probably ugly, a hoe, and no one wants you. If you do a live-in relationship with your partner without getting married, you’re a hoe and get shat on even more, and almost definitely disowned. You can’t be gay either, oh no, you’ll be disowned AND arrested lulz. And if you do get married, well congrats, you’ll be shat on by your husband and his family for the rest of your life anyway! It’s a lose-lose situation. I guess my question is, is there really such a thing as a “happy marriage” that doesn’t involve perpetual self-sacrifice and self-erasure? Because honestly, I haven’t seen a single good example to hold on to and wonder if I should just prepare myself for a shit life no matter what I choose.

Good work getting out of there, definitely the right choice. Feeling pessimistic after what you’ve just been through is totally understandable. No need to set unrealistic expectations on yourself to brush yourself off and get back out there into the dating pool, it might take some time. I think that taking that time is a good thing, just go slow with yourself and reorient yourself. While I’m not married (as neither me nor my girlfriend really believe in it) I know people who are happily married, so yes, I can confirm that it it can be done. However there’s also nothing wrong with being single or defacto. At some point you just have to say “I know society expects a certain thing, but too bad”. The best way to get by in life is to surround yourself with like-minded individuals who don’t buy into the society bullshit. And remember that someone who really loves you won’t try to control you.

Accurate take or no?

I’m not sure, but it’s definitely funny!

Hi Kpopalypse. Back in November QRIMOLE since someone asked you how to do social network, I want to ask more tips on that, like which content should I post to attract potential employers, or can I just occasionally comment on their post then one day DM them for JD? I just can’t slide into someone DM and asked, or maybe that’s the way and I’m too much of a pussy to do that? Help me Oppar…

Slide into DMs for sure, but don’t just do it randomly, do it in response to something that they posted. Find person X who is talking about thing Y in public or mentions it in their profile (plenty of those on LinkedIn) and send them a DM with some genuine questions about how you’ve always wanted to do thing Y and can they tell you more about [insert questions here]… I mean, I guess that’s how you do it. I’m pretty antisocial so I’m probably the wrong person to ask how to use a social network, but that’s how I’d do it in your position.

do you think that she could survive without a lifejacket at sea?

I’m sure some nice person with only her best interests at heart would pick her up.

scary! how long before AI no longer looks freaky like it does here, do you reckon?

the jump between Google Veo 3’s 30 sec waxy looking, but still impressive 30 sec videos (June 2025) vs. OpenAI Sora 2’s ability to deliver those convincing CCTV-esque camera videos (Sept 2025) was just 4 months!